War and flowers

Driving to the farm today. Passing the statue downtown and the flags on the pole.

Little J: Mommy tell me again who those persons on the black flag are.

Me: It represents prisoners of war.

Little J: I forgot, why do bad guy take them?

Me: In war both sides capture soldiers so they can use them in negotiations.

Little J: What is negotions?

Me: Negotiations. It is when you have something and you make the other side do things you want them to in exchange for what you have. Like me offering you cookies for dessert if you eat your dinner.

Little J: I see. So how do you negotiate with prisoners?

Me: They release our soldiers if we meet their demands. Like give them back a territory we are fighting for or return some of their soldiers.

Little J: Why do people fight in war?

Me: Because they cannot agree on things. Like who should be in charge or who does the land belong to.

Little J: Why do we fight about land? There is so much of it.

Me: There is usually something special about that land. It might be rich with oil or coal. Or things grow on it.

Little J: Like carrots? Or berries? Maybe blueberries or raspberries or blackberries? Or maybe daisies?

Me: I don’t think there has been a war about daisies yet son. But I think it is silly to fight, no matter what the reason.

Little J: Why do people fight?

Me: Because they don’t agree about something. Just like you and I don’t, lots of times. But unlike us, they cannot let go and fight for so long they start wars.

Little J: That’s silly. I really think they should change. Will people change?

Me: Not sure. I hope so. But it takes time. Maybe some day, maybe never. That’s life.

Little J: I thought life is a highway?

And just like that my boy made me laugh to tears.
I hope all you grown ups out there are listening and stop fighting about daisies.

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  1. Sarah May 17, 2012 at 21:51 #

    Twitter: thewilltosee
    Don’t you love their logic and they things they say. It is so great that you recording these conversations.
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    • Stasha May 17, 2012 at 22:27 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      There are so many that I forget. But I wrote this down quickly on my phone while he was brushing the horse. It is a shame to forget what our children say. They make so much sense…

  2. [email protected] May 17, 2012 at 22:25 #

    Twitter: AlisonSWLee
    I hope that Little J will one day be President.
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    • Stasha May 17, 2012 at 22:28 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Thanks girl. Not sure if I can wear rubber boots to White house when I visit?

  3. Katie E May 18, 2012 at 03:12 #

    Twitter: euregirlsandboy
    Little J is so awesome. My middle girl will say things like this sometimes – things she’d like to change about people, about the world. And sometimes I think the little kids are right about the way things should be :)
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  4. Jackie May 18, 2012 at 05:16 #

    Twitter: notwifezilla
    He is such a great soul!
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  5. Life As Wife May 18, 2012 at 05:33 #

    Straight from the mouths of babes!

    He’s got my vote!
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  6. Ado May 18, 2012 at 05:52 #

    I agree with Alison: Little J for President. (-:
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  7. Deb May 18, 2012 at 06:00 #

    awwwww hahaha. Loved this sweet conversation. And that last statement was adorably funny. He must hear that song a lot.
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    • Stasha May 18, 2012 at 09:28 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      He made me download that song. The Rascall Flatts version. I blame Cars- the movie :)

  8. Pamela May 18, 2012 at 06:02 #

    Twitter: pameloth
    Life in lyrics, through clear eyes and innocence. He’s adorable.
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    • Stasha May 18, 2012 at 09:27 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Thank you. How old is your youngest daughter?

      • Pamela May 18, 2012 at 09:36 #

        Twitter: pameloth
        She turned 15 this month. My son is 16. Steps are 18, 23, and 28. It gets crazy when we’re all together. Actually, it’s a little crazy all the time. And is that your ginormous black dog? LOVE HIM.
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  9. Ally May 18, 2012 at 08:00 #

    Twitter: normalmomally
    Ah, the wisdom of children. They see it so clearly without all the complications. Hard to argue with that!
    Life is a highway… oh my, I laughed out loud and startled the dog!
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    • Stasha May 18, 2012 at 09:18 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      I know. He loves that song. Maybe I need to put more then 30 songs on my pod so he gets more variety ?!

  10. Liz May 18, 2012 at 08:19 #

    Twitter: LizS_B
    And just like that, you had me laughing so hard!!! Kids are so cute aren’t they, such simplistic innocence that us adults should learn from… if only we remained with childlike innocence then there would be no wars about daisies!
    You know, the English had the “War of the Roses” for the throne of England in the 1400s… almost the same a daisies. 😉
    Great post my friend!!
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    • Stasha May 18, 2012 at 09:15 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Thank you so much Liz. He is a thinker and a sweet kid. Lucky for us daisies are rarely in the family crests 😉

  11. Kim Pugliano May 18, 2012 at 08:56 #

    Twitter: GisSilent
    Short story. Future book. Seriously, that little tidbit needs to be published. Or just sent around the internet in a viral email. Maybe I’ll start.
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    • Stasha May 18, 2012 at 09:17 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Thanks Kim. Kids have it all figured out. Why don’t we listen more?!

  12. Runnermom-jen May 18, 2012 at 09:13 #

    Twitter: runnermomjen
    I love your stories and conversations with Little J…very thought provoking.
    P.S. Daisies are my favorite flower :)
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    • Stasha May 18, 2012 at 09:16 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Thank you Jen. I always liked daisies too. But I think I am starting to love them.

  13. My Inner Chick May 18, 2012 at 10:10 #

    Twitter: krrobi
    Beautiful Conversation.
    –Your son would make an excellent President one day.
    He has more sense than most of the people in Washington. Xx

  14. serline May 18, 2012 at 11:54 #

    That’s a really interesting conversation you had with your son. He’s so adorable!! Have a great weekend!
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  15. RoryBore May 18, 2012 at 19:03 #

    Twitter: rorybore
    oh so sweet. what a big heart he has!

    I love eavesdropping on convo’s between my 3. it’s both enlightening and entertaining.
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  16. Audrey May 18, 2012 at 21:27 #

    How sweet is J! I love this story

  17. Iza Trapani May 19, 2012 at 04:12 #

    He is adorable and so wise! Give your little future President a hug from me!

  18. Twisted Domestic Goddess May 19, 2012 at 05:36 #

    Kids get it they really do….more of us should listen to them more often. Love that kid!
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  19. Marinka May 19, 2012 at 14:39 #

    Twitter: MarinkaNYC
    Love this. Sometimes I think kids should rule the world. More than they already do, I mean.
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  20. Kindred Adventures May 20, 2012 at 05:29 #

    Twitter: kindredadventur
    I read this earlier this week and never got back to comment. It is moving when we listen to our children. Their perspective is so simple and untarnished. It’s the perspective that many adults could learn a lot from. This exchange between you and J was just that… A perspective a lot of adults could learn from!!! Loved this post -LV
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  21. Steph May 20, 2012 at 12:58 #

    It’s amazing how something so profound can come out of their simple little minds. PS, great job explaining it to him. I would have gotten flustered after about the second question!
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  22. Barbara May 22, 2012 at 01:57 #

    Twitter: babspinfrance
    Why can’t the world be run by Children. They are so much wiser than some of the people running things.
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  23. Melissa May 24, 2012 at 10:57 #

    So sweet and interesting conversation) I like it
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