Dear Stasha

Earlier this year, just before my Birthday, Jamie from Chosen Chaos invited me to write a letter to my 18 year old self. So I did.

This week, to celebrate a year of hosting this wonderful guest posting community she has build, Jamie asked us to return and share our original letters on our own sites. Please JOIN US in visiting some of your favorite bloggers writing a letter to their 18 year old self. Perhaps write one for you and let us know, so we can read it.

And thank you Jamie, cannot wait to read your letter next week!

Dear 18 year old self,

I will make a quick list of 10 for you to see what lays ahead. Mostly because, believe it or not it is lists that finally shot you into stardom. Not dating an international soccer star or a prince or even having a 7 minute interview on national TV. Nope, simple lists of ten every Monday is what made you famous. So here goes:

1. You will be happy. Every day. There will be days that are best forgotten, some that will drag and some that will be just plain old rubbish. But through it all, you will be happy.

2. You will promise a man to stay with him ’till death do us part’. For someone who will make history in her twenties for bailing out twice I know it is hard to believe, but I really think you will like growing old with this one. And no, he is not the prince…

3. You will do what you want and be incredibly good at it. Then you will give it all up to build legos, brush the dog, mock up after a horse and nag a husband. And it will be better then you ever imagined.

4. Remember failing matriculation exam for photography school? All those silly shades of grey you had to paint? Well guess what: it is all digital now and you are rocking it. You own your own business and the reason I am writing you this letter well past midnight is because you just finished editing photos for yet another happy couple.

5. You will eat your words. Many times in fact. But the strangest of all is that the one continent you never dreamed of traveling to, you will call home. The one country you always said was too big for you to explore, you will be a citizen of. The one accent you said you will never have, you still don’t . Relax…

6. Remember going out to dance after you fell down on the slopes and hurt your knee? That was dumb. Because almost two decades later you will need a major surgery for it. That is the only thing I wish you knew back then. Health is never to be taken lightly.

7. You will love someone like you love grandpa. He will be your all. He will be the first great grandson in the family.

8. And no, grandpa will not meet him. So please go home. Go back right now, make grandpa a cup of coffee and spend the afternoon with him. You will spend most of your life missing him, so make memories right now. There are not many men in the world like him.

9. You will be a mother. Not what you ever dreamed of or planned, but one day you will wake up and realize you have no reason not to have a family. And it will be magical.

10. Your son will be just like you, only funnier. He will drive you mad and make you proud. While you still can, tell your grandparents thank you. For taking you in, bringing you up and loving you for the spoiled only child you were. Because you will one day get a dose of you. And you will love your son more then the stars and the moon and the milky way too. Just like your grandfather loved you.

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  1. Posted August 9, 2012 at 22:51 by Larks | Permalink

    Awwww… Not gonna lie, I teared up a little bit. The best part of this list is #1. I am so glad you were happy. It’s a very elusive, often under prioritized thing.

  2. Posted August 9, 2012 at 22:58 by Recovering Supermom | Permalink

    This is beautiful, Stasha.
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  3. Posted August 9, 2012 at 23:04 by Alison | Permalink

    One of your best lists ever, Stasha. Love it.
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  4. Posted August 10, 2012 at 01:23 by Jenni via Facebook | Permalink

    Perfect. Loved it the first time; love it now. Xxx

  5. Posted August 10, 2012 at 05:02 by Mark | Permalink

    See, it all worked out!
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  6. Posted August 10, 2012 at 05:14 by Runnermom-jen | Permalink

    I remember this from the first time around…I’m with Alison, one of your best lists ever :)
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  7. Posted August 10, 2012 at 05:45 by MamaCassie | Permalink

    Great post! I love what you said about your grandpa… <3
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  8. Posted August 10, 2012 at 06:49 by Rachel | Permalink

    This is my favorite post ever. Ok maybe not ever, but it really is so good. Thank you for sharing. And do tell us more about this prince. ; )
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  9. Posted August 10, 2012 at 07:48 by Susi | Permalink

    This is by far the best list of yours I have read. And I teared up too a little. Number 5 totally hits home with me. In that, I think, we are kindred spirits!!! The way you feel about your grandpa, is how I feel about my late grandma. I miss her every day.
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  10. Posted August 10, 2012 at 08:32 by Co-Pilot Mom | Permalink

    A beautiful list. Such a moving letter to your younger self.
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  11. Posted August 10, 2012 at 09:43 by Katie via Facebook | Permalink

    beautiful. teary.

  12. Posted August 10, 2012 at 11:24 by Gretchen Hanna via Facebook | Permalink


  13. Posted August 10, 2012 at 12:32 by Mama and the City | Permalink

    I so love this list.
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  14. Posted August 10, 2012 at 13:39 by Barbara | Permalink

    I love #10. What a great list!!
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  15. Posted August 10, 2012 at 18:21 by Julie | Permalink

    I’m sorry grandpa didn’t get to meet grandson. That is one of life’s cruelest things.
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  16. Posted August 11, 2012 at 08:41 by Anna | Permalink

    I really love your list! This is great!
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  17. Posted August 11, 2012 at 19:23 by My Inner Chick | Permalink

    –you know what is Magical, Stasha?


    fabulous post.
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  18. Posted August 12, 2012 at 05:04 by Twisted Domestic Goddess | Permalink

    I remember when you posted this list the first time!!! it made me cry then and now it’s making me blubber like an idiot.

    We were both so blessed with awesome grandpas.
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  19. Posted August 12, 2012 at 13:03 by Kathleen (Middletini | Permalink

    This is truly lovely. Thanks so much for sharing it.

  20. Posted August 13, 2012 at 15:44 by Phase Three of Life | Permalink

    Loved this. We thought we knew everything then, but we knew so little. I wonder what we’ll want to tell ourselves another 10-20 years into the future.

  21. Posted August 14, 2012 at 15:44 by Ado | Permalink

    I love that you are happy, and I love that your son gets to be just like you, “only funnier.” So sweet. (-:
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  22. Posted August 14, 2012 at 18:16 by Jamie | Permalink

    I’m having such fun re-reading all of these! This was one of my faves, in true listicle fashion!! Thank you!
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  23. Posted August 15, 2012 at 08:55 by MommaKiss | Permalink

    making my way thru these and am honored to read your list today. I told my 18yo self to cherish moments with a loved one gone too soon, if only we knew …
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  24. Posted August 17, 2012 at 11:22 by Mirjam | Permalink

    Stasha, this is beautiful. I love your list.
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