The Mom that found me

Today’s post was inspired by

Mama’s Losin’ It

writing prompt number 4.) Ode to your mother…write about a special memory you have of your mom in honor of Mother’s Day.


I don’t much care for dates, because I am not fond of numbers.

You see 3rd of May is a very sad day in my family. It is the day I lost my mom and my grandparents lost their daughter. Now that I am a mother I can better understand the overwhelming sadness my Grandma felt. She dreaded the day weeks in advance. We were always quiet and there was terrible gloom in the air. I hated 3rd of May with passion.

Please don’t misunderstand. Every time I think of her I feel sadness and loss. We all have one mother. None of us want her life to be forgotten. I just hate that there should be a day I am to mourn her death more then any other.

Not that many years ago I met my husband. Who had great neighbors. That became great friends. I spend most of my free time with them and it felt like being with family. We were once regarded as mother and daughter by a kind waiter hoping for a big tip. And thus I was ‘adopted’.

3rd of May happens to be my ‘MOM and DAD’s’ anniversary. Today they celebrated their 42nd. For over four decades she stood by him, through war and peace; moving around the globe, loving him and raising their children. I adore them. The way they finish each others sentences, agree to disagree, the way he looks at her, the way she asks him for opinion. How they love their children and grandchildren. How they love their country. How they have traditions. Above all, their honesty.

She was there when my husband proposed. She guided me through my first steps in married life. She welcomed me in her home and told me all was well when I became a wife of  a man in the desert. She helped me choose the very first clothes for my son, when he was just a peanut on the scan. She was the first person to like my blog.

She may not be my mom, but she is a mother figure. I love you, for all you are.

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  1. Jessica May 4, 2011 at 23:24 #

    Twitter: Mytimeasmom
    What an excellent woman in your life. And how sweet she was the first one to like your blog.
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    • Stasha May 4, 2011 at 23:40 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Thank you. She is one of a kind.

  2. {Not Quite} Susie Homemaker May 4, 2011 at 23:36 #

    How sweet :) Sorry to hear about your mother, but I’m happy for you that you have a mother figure you love :)
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    • Stasha May 4, 2011 at 23:41 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Thank you. I loved your post about the one. Very sweet!

  3. [email protected] Wants This May 4, 2011 at 23:48 #

    Twitter: MamaWantsThis
    What a beautiful tribute to your Mom. I’m sorry for your loss. I do hope you have a great Mother’s Day though :-)
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    • Stasha May 5, 2011 at 00:00 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      And you! May it be field with laughter and love from your little Monkey.

  4. Leah May 5, 2011 at 00:13 #

    I know how you feel. I lost my mom three years ago and her birthday, the anniversary and of course Mothers Day will always be hard for me to get through. I just try to stay busy and think of all the wonderful memories I had with her.
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    • Stasha May 5, 2011 at 00:25 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Be strong. Memories keep our loved ones alive. And great friends can sometimes step in their shoes.

  5. Jenni May 5, 2011 at 01:43 #

    Beautiful xx

  6. tracy May 5, 2011 at 03:36 #

    Twitter: sellabitmum
    When my grandmas died a few years ago – my mother mourned like she just became an orphan…at 59 years old. That is how much we love our moms.

    This post is beautiful and touching and just full of love all around. I want to just hug you.
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  7. June Freaking Cleaver May 5, 2011 at 04:41 #

    Life has a way of putting people we need within arms’ reach sometimes. I’m so glad you found a mom/role model in your neighbor.
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  8. JDaniel4's Mom May 5, 2011 at 07:54 #

    She sounds like a amazing lady! What a blessing she had been to your life.

  9. Runnermom-jen May 5, 2011 at 08:07 #

    Twitter: runnermomjen
    That is so nice…I love that she was the first person to like your blog! And sorry for your loss.
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  10. Sherry Herbert via Facebook May 5, 2011 at 08:20 #

    And we love you as our daughter! xoxoxoxxo

  11. Sherry May 5, 2011 at 08:31 #

    We love you as our daughter (adopted or not)…MISS you!! xoxoxoxo

    • Stasha May 5, 2011 at 09:19 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Lots of XO to both!

  12. Elena May 5, 2011 at 08:47 #

    Twitter: NaynaDub
    What a sweet tribute to your “adopted” mom. I’m so very sorry for the loss of your mother. I’m happy for you that you’ve found family in great friends.
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  13. Bruna May 5, 2011 at 09:13 #

    Twitter: beeswithhoney
    So nice that you had such a wonderful mother figure in your life. A sweet tribute to her too! I’m sorry for the loss of your Mother.

  14. The Flying Chalupa May 5, 2011 at 14:40 #

    So sweet. Good for you for reclaiming a day to feel good about – and it sounds like you have found a wonderful friend.

    • Stasha May 5, 2011 at 20:33 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      I have indeed!

  15. Anne May 5, 2011 at 18:58 #

    Did you ever think that your Mom sent this wonderful woman to you as a blessing in your life? I believe angels watch over us.
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    • Stasha May 5, 2011 at 20:33 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      I like that.

  16. Paulette May 5, 2011 at 22:02 #

    Twitter: LittleMsP
    That was just AWESOME to read! Thanks for sharing!

    Visiting from Mama Kats

  17. Jenni May 10, 2011 at 02:38 #

    I linked this to ‘Mama wants this’, not because you linked me, but because I truly love your blog, your writing and your fabulous way with words. I also linked this because this post gave me pause for thought and the feeling in your words made me all misty eyed. Proud of you pretty lady! x
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  18. Julie May 10, 2011 at 06:37 #

    Amazing, the capacity of our hearts, to feel such sadness and then to be able to make room for new relationships that bring many blessings. Thanks for reminding me of that.

  19. jacqui May 10, 2011 at 12:52 #

    Twitter: chicktuition
    I love that you found someone to be a mother for you…very touching tribute to both your moms!
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  20. mom2kiddos May 11, 2011 at 02:36 #

    Twitter: kiddothings
    What a heartwarming post. A fitting tribute for the ‘mothers’ in your life.
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  21. Jayne May 11, 2011 at 12:29 #

    So lovely. I’m glad she found you as well!
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  22. The Reason You Come May 13, 2011 at 13:48 #

    Twitter: mrsscottmcd
    This is such a beautiful story, and you’re so fortunate that you were adopted by such an amazing woman.
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