Monday Listicles

Half way through September, celebrating Monday with a new list.

Can you believe autumn is just around the corner? I really enjoyed wrapping up the summer by reading all your lists of changes. You made me laugh, you made me think and you made me visit each one at least twice. Talk about change, I guess the seasons are about to. I like cooler weather and sweaters and pumpkin lattes. But I know some of you will miss summer a lot. So let’s dedicate our next weeks lists to this summer. Anything goes, just bring back a list of ten things summer 2011.

I have been thinking a lot about my childhood and comparing it with my son’s lately. So I wanted to hear your take on what children have different theses days, good or bad. I am very excited to see what you will share.

Let us begin!

Make a list, check it twice, link it up. Read others. Have fun!

10 THINGS FROM MY CHILDHOOD I WISH MY SON COULD DO

1. Grow up close to his grandparents and great grandparents.

In this day and age not many of us live a block away from our parents. I think it is important to get to know all generations and their stories. It is also good for kids to be made sitting in a pristine room full of porcelain and doilies at an elderly lady’s house, forbidden from talking and playing. It builds character and prevents children from becoming hoarderers collectors of fine china.

2. Fending for himself

Kids are sheltered. Everything is deemed unnapropriate. I grew up among boys, mostly two years older then me. They bossed me around and we occasionally had a row. I went home with skinned knees and arms red from pulling. My Grandpa was proud when my friend’s mom came knocking on the door complaining I punched her son. He was provoking me and I handled it; like all kids do. I was never a bully. I never was bullied either. We fought over who will be the goalkeeper and who has a bigger dog. We never bottled anything up. Bit of a push and shove and 10 minutes later we were best friends again. Nobody carried guns to school at the age of 10. Don’t get me started on that.

3. Watch TV 10 minutes a day

I know, I know. I am in charge of the remote control. But when I was a kid we only had 2 channels. National TV channel one and two. And there was a cartoon every evening at ten past seven. We all watched it and went to bed afterwards, so parents could watch the news and have an evening to themselves. Then we talk about it in school the next day. My son has on demand shows and DVDs. I want to be strict about it, but I let him watch TV in the morning so I can get ready. I let him choose what he wants. I sometimes give in and let him watch another episode so I can tidy up. If I had no choice, he would have no choice. And that one evening cartoon would be a special treat and not the norm.

4. Go out to play

We live in a very safe town. But these days people are not used to letting kids go out to play on their own. I grew up in an apartment building and by the age of five I was allowed to go to the playground on my own. The only rule was I had to be back home in time for dinner and be able to hear my grandma calling me from the balcony. I wish my son could freely go and hang out with his buddies in a year or two. Kids are so much better playing nice when adults are not micromanaging them.

5. Be naughty

I don’t mean in a rude and malicious way like some kids are these days. But me and my friends spend a lot of our time being cheeky and aggravating the building’s janitor and the mean old lady that was always shouting at us for playing around her roses. I think that is what generations are meant to do to coexist. We kept them young by making them chase us around and we learned how to apologize, plant new roses and take punishments for things we did not even do wrong.

6. Go to school on his own

I was walked to school by my grandma only the first week I started it at the age of 6. After that I walked on my own, crossing the road and half a mile. I cherished that time. I either walked alone, with friends or my imaginary dog. My most meaningful friendships emerged from walking that distance every day. I want my son to be independent and free to walk to school, safely.

7. Exploring the world

We took the public bus and went downtown on our own by the age of 8. We had a pass, we knew our stops. We were send to buy fish from the market downtown and given change for ice cream. We attended ballet classes and gymnastics and soccer practice alone. There were no minivan mamas. There were bikes and public transportation. There was responsibility and independence. I guess the world was a safer place.

8. Pick an apple from a tree and eat it or drink from the well

I truly don’t understand how I was able to do that twenty years ago and I am now judged if I don’t buy organic for my son or let him drink tap water. Have we really destroyed our planet that much? That makes me so sad and mad.

9. Talk and play

No toys, no games, no distractions. We were out all day playing with marbles and jumping long elastic loops, playing knights and building forts form branches. My son shows his toys to his buddies as soon as they walk in. He takes his trucks to the beach. He watches his TV shows with his friends when he visits them. I know they have imagination, I know they can use it. But with all these modern distractions, they just don’t need to.

10. Have a happy childhood like mine was

I guess that is up to me. A lot has changed over the years but ultimately it was my grandparents that made my childhood so wonderful. So I need to make sure I can do the same. Be the best parent I can be.

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24 Comments

  1. Runnermom-jen September 18, 2011 at 19:17 #

    Twitter: runnermomjen
    Your childhood sounds amazing!! I especially like the being naughty one ;) And good for you for punching that boy!! You were one tough chic!!
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  2. jacqui September 18, 2011 at 19:19 #

    Twitter: chicktuition
    I love this list. Kids are missing out on a lot of memories we all take for granted. That’s one of the reasons I don’t give electronic gifts to any kids I know…and take them to do things that don’t involve electricity.

    You are really good about doing so many outdoor and imagination-based activities with your son. I’m sure he’ll have great childhood memories too…just a little different than yours.
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  3. Alison@Mama Wants This September 18, 2011 at 19:25 #

    Twitter: MamaWantsThis
    A wonderful list, Stasha. My son is lucky, he has his paternal grandparents nearby and he spends a few hours a day there. My wish for my son is mostly to be able to spend his childhood playing outside – in fields, playgrounds, meadows, lakes, beaches. We live in an apartment in the middle of a busy city where we can’t even walk out onto the kerb (there is barely one). Someday soon I hope.
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  4. Runnermom-jen September 18, 2011 at 19:29 #

    Twitter: runnermomjen
    Just clicked on the “some”…thanks for the mention. :) I am already missing summer.
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  5. Rach (DonutsMama) September 18, 2011 at 19:30 #

    It does make me a bit sad how much things have changed. It really hit a nerve about eating an apple and drinking tap water. I want to give my child the purest food, but you’re right–we have destroyed a lot of the planet and foods we eat–and then we supplement with a bunch of things to make up for the lack. It makes no sense!
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  6. Cookie's Mom September 18, 2011 at 19:31 #

    Twitter: SJM_CookiesMom
    Stasha, I feel the same way about #8. We’re made to feel so paranoid about our food and water these days. We’re supposed to think that spraying some chemicals on our fruits will make them healthier to eat. We need to filter our water (bottled is just as bad as unfiltered because of the plastic concerns). I love that I can take my son out in the backyard and let him pick and eat a strawberry off of the plant. Are there trace chemicals in that strawberry because some neighbour sprayed his yard with herbicide and it wafted down the valley to my place? Potentially, but when can we allow ourselves to relax? Poor kids these days. What messages are they getting?

    Great list!
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  7. Kim September 18, 2011 at 20:38 #

    This list and this topic made me feel both happy and sad, I guess that is called bittersweet perhaps. I love that you had such an amazing childhood full of freedom and independence, two things I wish my girls could have so much of but they don’t. Not only is it harder to give our children the space and time to be alone in a world we worry isn’t safe enough for our kids, but it is also harder for children to be ‘allowed’ to do things we took for granted as children. I’ve read stories of communities demolishing playgrounds, neighbors telling children they can’t climb trees, abandoned fields being fenced in, cul de sacs transforming from a place to ride big wheels and bikes to kids dealing drugs, and more. Despite the treasures we’ve lost from our childhood, I think my children will look back fondly on their childhood. They are happy, even if they watch way too many movies. I’m glad we still don’t have cable, but they love watching DVDs and I never thought I would let my children watch as much TV as they do. This is a great list Stasha and such a thought-provoking topic, so thank you :)
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  8. Jessica September 19, 2011 at 00:35 #

    Twitter: Mytimeasmom
    It makes me sad when I think back to my childhood and how I was able to play outside and be close with family and to know that my children won’t really have the same experiences. They will always have to be supervised outside and we don’t live near family. I think they will still be happy though.

  9. Lyons32Emily September 19, 2011 at 07:20 #

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  10. Just Jennifer September 19, 2011 at 07:57 #

    Twitter: JenAnnHall
    You are so cool, Stasha! I’m am sure your son is going to have a great childhood.
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  11. christina September 19, 2011 at 08:07 #

    Twitter: finallymom
    i love this list and could really relate to a lot of it. thinking of the differences really leaves me missing some of my youth when most days i don’t think i had much of a childhood… the reality is, i sure did- it just flew by way too fast!
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  12. blueviolet September 19, 2011 at 08:31 #

    I feel like my kids had a little bit of a touch of that, but not enough. There will never again be the carefree days of childhood that we all lived, and what a shame that is.
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  13. Gina September 19, 2011 at 08:49 #

    Completely agree with #1- I wish the grandparents my kids have were a bit more involved as mine were!
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  14. Janice September 19, 2011 at 11:28 #

    Twitter: mommyslounge
    I love this list and I think it’s a great topic. My childhood was spent in a 3rd world country so u can bet it’ll be different from my kids’! I wish they could experience what I had. (Be on the lookout for my post when I get around to it. Bit behind this week.)
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  15. Jessica September 19, 2011 at 12:27 #

    Twitter: goaliej54
    This is awesome; love the list idea and your list. :) The fine china thing made me laugh. It’s so true! I didn’t even want to register for the stuff for my wedding! LOL
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  16. Jodi Hall September 19, 2011 at 13:27 #

    Such a wonderful list!

    Number 5 made me giggle..

    Number 6 and 7 made me smile.. You are such a good mom!
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  17. Ado September 19, 2011 at 14:40 #

    So nice to know that you had a happy childhood full of marbles and conversation. I have a feeling your kids are having a fabulous nature-filled childhood because of your parenting. (-:

  18. Kiddothings September 19, 2011 at 17:23 #

    Twitter: kiddothings
    What a wonderful childhood you had. Although I watched way more TV than my kids do.
    It’s been a tough few days for me and I’m a little sad I won’t have time to link up to Monday Listicles this week. Or I just might, I don’t know. It all depends on the little Terrible Two. Have a good week ahead Stasha.
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  19. Fabulosokids Bruce September 19, 2011 at 20:14 #

    We’re eye to eye on this one Stasha. This topic, my thoughts and your list have made me a little melancholy, missing what was. The thing I wonder is if our kids feel differently about their world than we felt about ours, or if we simply notice the differences because we are so wise(ahem…..)and as a result assume that they love their world less than we loved ours. Who knows–maybe they’ll be lamenting the loss of innocence in their children’s lives?
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  20. deborah quinn September 19, 2011 at 23:31 #

    Twitter: mannahattamamma
    WHOOPS! I blame the Middle East. I totally forgot about Monday. Which is to say, I thought Sunday was Monday but it was Sunday and then Monday felt like Tuesday…anyway. My list is coming but yours is so great – and so spot on for what I’d say that I’m tempted to simply list your blog under my name. But I guess then we’d be in a list of 10 Blogger No-Nos, right? Your childhood sounds pretty delicious, I have to say–altho it sounds like Little J doesn’t have it so bad either…
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  21. Bestfoodies September 20, 2011 at 11:49 #

    Twitter: bestfoodies
    Love your list and agree with all the things you listed. Times used to be so much easier and more simple. Isn’t it amazing how all the things in our life that are suppose to make things easier only further complicates things by giving us the impression that we have more time on our hands to crame more in and yet the world is losing all the simple things that made life fun…lol… Ahh, for the old days and seeing my kids as little ones again.

  22. Erica M September 20, 2011 at 21:18 #

    Twitter: yhwriteme
    I’m here! I’m here! Twice. Could you delete one of them for me? Thanks!
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    • Stasha September 20, 2011 at 22:36 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Looking good! Shame you told me to remove one because I really liked both thumbnails and it took me forever to decide which on to eliminate. Welcome to the top ten!!

  23. Iza Trapani September 21, 2011 at 15:08 #

    I love your list! And though it is now a much different world, I am sure you’re finding a balance for your son – instilling in him a love for nature, teaching him to be creative and giving him a bit of independence when it feels right. By the way, we lived in my paternal grandmother’s apartment in Warsaw, Poland and when I started school, she used to walk me across the busy street with a tramway running down the middle. Then I would the walk several blocks to my school by myself (and feel very grown up). When school ended, I’d walk back and shout for my grandma (who’d usually be on waiting for me on our apartment balcony. Then I’d wait for her to come and get me and escort me across the street. The world is small :-)

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