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1.) Share a disagreement you’re having with someone and let your readers be the judge!

I love the idea of this prompt but I have no pending disagreements. Can you believe that?

Reasons for why that may or may not be the fact:
- I am rarely in adult company
- I am not confrontational
- or opinionated
- I had oral surgery and am numb and pain free courtesy of drugs
- I am simply always right.

But I had an issue last night that I would like for you to weigh in on. I suppose it is me against the world and if you have EVER visited this blog or follow me on Twitter you know where I stand. But for the sake of argument I will present two sides, mine and my friends (who is not as old as this will make her sound).

My hairdresser alerted me to the fact that my voice mail is full and she could not record a reminder for my appointment last week. Last night I finally tackled the issue, mostly because I am now a business owner and there is a slight possibility my mobile might ring one day.

After looking for voice mail among the last 50 dialed numbers (which took me back all the way to January) and searching for the o_o icon on my phone’s keyboard I was no closer to calling voice mail box. I resorted to googling for the number. Turns out it is VM (86). Clever ha? Anyhow after consulting Twitter and Facebook I was armed with 77 (shortcut to erasing without listening-thank you Rachel) and chocolate, ready to face the nemesis.

Most messages were by a stranger looking for Harvey and a realtor hoping to schedule a viewing. I do not know a man called Harvey and we are not selling our house. Also I missed my tooth cleaning cancellation. All together, waste of time.

So I had my rant:

Voice mail is obsolete. It takes less time to email or text a person. Or tweet. Or send a carrier pigeon. This is 21st century. Nobody should be talking on the phone anyway, let alone record on a machine who somebody else then has to dial. And in any case, I can see the missed call number on the screen and call back, right?

Unless you are my grandmother. Then by all means leave a message telling me screening is not nice and no way to treat your parents…

My friend said:

People should leave a message after the beep. It is polite and lets the person you are calling know you did. The message should include the reason you called, time, return phone number and any additional information. The message should be listened to and call returned. There is nothing worse then having a missed call and not knowing what it was about.

Your turn:


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  1. Kim @ This Belle Rocks October 6, 2011 at 00:44 #

    Twitter: ThisBelleRocks
    I try to always listen to my voice mail, even though I’m not always great at responding. I’ll leave one, too, if it’s something important. I agree with you, though, that it is quicker to send someone an email or text.

    So….I guess I agree with both of you? Or at least see the logic in both sides of the story.

    Just here via Mama Kat’s.
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 01:10 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      You are polite and wise. And very diplomatic. I see a bright future for you in politics :)

  2. Blissfully Jeanette October 6, 2011 at 00:46 #

    I hate voice mail! I never listen to mine, which I’m sure leaves me looking like a very rude person. Please, please, please text me instead!
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 01:14 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      You and I will get along swimmingly :)

  3. Karen and Gerard October 6, 2011 at 03:20 #

    Twitter: kzemek
    We use voice mail all the time at home so we don’t take calls we don’t want–scams, political messages. We always listen to our messages.

    Stopping by from writers workshop.
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 09:50 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      We don’t have home phone. Mostly because of the calls you mentioned. If we did have one I would be screening too!

  4. [email protected] Wants This October 6, 2011 at 03:22 #

    Twitter: MamaWantsThis
    Voice mail schmoice mail. Just text me, you’ll get a quicker response. If I call someone and get to voice mail, I hang up and text them immediately, if I require a quick response. Otherwise I just wait for them to return call. Easy peasy!
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 09:57 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Yep, I am a hangeruper too.Unless it is a very entertaining message and i listen to the end. Then I have to leave a VM, cause listening to people hanging up is even worst then listening to people trying to say something :)

  5. Barbara October 6, 2011 at 03:43 #

    Twitter: babspinfrance
    I hate voicemail…hate it. The only time I will listen if it’s from my son’s daycare. Just send me a message, it takes me 1/2 the time to read and respond!
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 09:57 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      So glad I am not alone in this!

  6. [email protected] October 6, 2011 at 05:01 #

    It depends who you’re calling. If I’m calling some one just to day hello, I don’t leave a message. If it’s important, i do. I’m not sure what this says about me, but there you have it.
    [email protected] recently posted..Just Share, Dammit!

    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 10:05 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      It says you sometimes leave a message and sometimes you don’t ;)

  7. mommylisa October 6, 2011 at 06:58 #

    If you call someone why would you not leave a vmail? Why would you hang up and then email or text them? If you don’t want to talk to them just text them in the first place.

    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 10:09 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      That is a very good point. And I never ever call anybody. The more I think about this, I am not very nice, am I? Somebody out there is writing prompt number 5 about me, aren’t they :)

  8. Laura October 6, 2011 at 07:20 #

    Twitter: heyhusband
    Uhg, yes. I totally agree. Voice mail is just annoying. I hate listening to voice messages, and I hate leaving them even more. Sometimes I have to leave work-related messages to clients, and I always sound like a babbling food. Let’s all just check our emails and stop having uncomfortable phone conversations!

    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 10:19 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Oh dear, I forgot about leaving them. I have more stage fright doing that them to sing in Albert Hall. ( and ask my husband, he will confirm I am the worst singer ever. And message sayer)

  9. Dana K October 6, 2011 at 08:58 #

    Twitter: TheDanaK
    I’m the worst about answering my phone (ringer is ALWAYS off unless I have reason to believe Chris will be pulling in to port and I miss him). I check my voicemail but most people have learned that it’s stupid to say much more than “this is so & so. you’re not answering your phone. again.”

    My mom doesn’t text, so I kind of have to have it…plus, the appointment reminders have saved my butt several times.

    I’m torn. Basically, only moms & doctors’ offices should leave messages.
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 10:29 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Husbands coming into port, TOTALLY EXCEPTIONS! Moms are pretty untouchable too. Doctors should send you childcare and limo with chilled champagne for your appointment. That way we will never forget them again.

  10. Sue Babaloo October 6, 2011 at 10:18 #

    Voicemail does seem to becoming obsolete. I think if there is something urgent you should leave a message. If you are just calling to chat, then a missed call is acceptable. I do hate it though, when I leave a message and the person calls back without listening to their voicemail and asks me “did you call?”
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 10:32 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      You are so right!! That would be terribly annoying. I guess me always playing hard to to get eliminates all this problems. And most of my friendships…

  11. Tracy October 6, 2011 at 10:18 #

    Twitter: nystoopmama
    I currently have 102 voicemails in my inbox. ONE HUNDRED AND TWO. Meh. If you text or email me, I’ll get back to you in less than a minute. Actually TALKING, though? Listening to some stupid message? I have an aversion.
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 10:36 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      You and I, we are ahead of time. I believe talking should be done in person, over a nice cuppa and cake. Everything else should be typed or written.

  12. [email protected] October 6, 2011 at 11:29 #

    I don’t mind emails but I can live without them, except for the ones where my husband or kids tell me they love me…way better than a text or email.
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 17:47 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Oh yes, I hear you. There are some voicemails that should never be erased!!

  13. darcelle October 6, 2011 at 12:16 #

    Here’s the thing, If it was important enough for someone to take their time to leave me a voice mail, then I can give them the courtesy to listens to it. I can tell by the tone in someone voice how what was said was meant, it is not clear when reading someones text or email.

    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 17:49 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      I believe you are right. Also I think you are a real lady. And I will give you double :) :) to recreate my happiness as I type this :) !

  14. JDaniel4's Mom October 6, 2011 at 12:46 #

    I love voice mail. I have never gotten into texting.
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 17:50 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      I adore you. You are one of the most influential bloggers I follow and a technophobe. So retro :)

  15. Jodi Hall October 6, 2011 at 13:16 #

    I agree with you! I say text or email quickly. I do agree with the others saying if its really important leave a msg.. But most of my voicemails are from sales calls even though im on the Do not call list lol
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 17:51 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      That is mean. Why are they bugging you if you are on do not call list?!

  16. blueviolet October 6, 2011 at 16:43 #

    If someone leaves me a voicemail, I’ll always listen to it, and my issue is actually with my cell carrier who makes me go through a litany of options before I can even get to my box. That’s what ticks me off. I prefer a text from people, but I can deal with the voice mails from those who don’t text. I’m pretty laid back.
    blueviolet recently posted..I’m Just Gonna Have To Be A First Time Homebuyer… Again.

    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 17:52 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      OMG, you are so right. I never minded listening to the old-fashioned answering machine. Press the button and you are good to go. But this is like a 5 minute procedure. Also I am not great at remembering numbers, so password is always the fun part.

  17. Runnermom-jen October 6, 2011 at 17:11 #

    Twitter: runnermomjen
    I am HUGE on texting! However, when the kids school calls or something they leave a message, however, I know the school’s number, so not an issue really.
    I really just hate talking on the phone…except if it’s my mom :)
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 17:57 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Yep, I like all the features on my mobile except the actual verbal communication :)

  18. Twisted Domestic Goddess October 6, 2011 at 17:59 #

    If I’m taking the time to call the person and I get the voicemail then yes I leave a message. Or I right away text them and say hey I called you you didn’t answer why don’t you love me anymore and want to talk to me???(yea yea I know I have issues)

    Although with one side of my family we are continually playing phone tag and phone text. Half of us are insomniacs texting at 2 am(guilty) and the other half actually know what sleep is and won’t text until 10 or 11 am when I’m teaching.

    Oh yea that’s another factor. If I’m teaching most likely I will not pick up my phone so people know to leave a message unless it’s waayy important and they text me which I will then answer.
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    • Stasha October 6, 2011 at 18:06 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      My neighbor home schools so I can totally understand the voicemail bit and how important it is for you. The more I think about this I think it is the mobile VM I have issues with. We do not have a home phone. And cell, I mean it has so many other features, why leave a message?
      I think it is cute to leave voicemail and txt to say you left it. Maybe you should email too. And in my case leave a comment on my blog, for some reason that is one think I check compulsively. ;)

      • Twisted Domestic Goddess October 6, 2011 at 20:57 #

        bwahahah i haven’t had a landline for 6 years so mobile vm is all I have. Heck I’d call,leave a message,text, email, and then just show up on your door lol. I know I know stalker much???
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  19. Hal Hovey October 6, 2011 at 18:30 #

    Twitter: halhovey
    You would love my phone, thanks to verizon it no longer notifies me of voicemails, so I usually only find out about them when I receive an angry email asking why I haven’t responded to the message that has been left on my phone! I have 11 messages saved, 8 of those are from my sons, because whenever I need a break at work I don’t have to go anywhere to hear their voices. My favorite message is from my youngest son on Christmas Eve 4 years ago, it starts, “Daddy, I can’t believe you are working on Christmas Eve….” It makes me smile every time I hear it.

    • Stasha October 7, 2011 at 10:26 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      So term hate mail was invented for voice mail? I love how you saved the important voicemails from boys. That is precious. Very, very precious.
      I cannot believe you had to work on Christmas eve too.

  20. Kimberly October 6, 2011 at 22:15 #

    Twitter: KimberlyAMuro
    I got an iPhone a year ago. Apparently I had to go through prompts on my phone to set up a new voice mailbox. I never did it. So now when people call me they can’t leave a message. I’m sure that irritates some, but I don’t have to remember to call to get my messages. Win for me!
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    • Stasha October 7, 2011 at 10:31 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      My husband has not set up him voicemail either. I did it firs day I got my phone, clearly I should have put more thought into this..

  21. Amanda October 6, 2011 at 22:26 #

    Twitter: lilahbility
    I feel rude if I don’t leave a message when I call. Unless I know the person REALLY well or I’ve already left a message stating why I’m calling. That said, I still only check my messages about once a week, and I fast-forward and delete most of them because I’ve already returned the call by the time I listen to them.
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    • Stasha October 7, 2011 at 10:33 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      That’s the thing, isn’t it? By the time I would listen to them, I would have attended their children”s college graduation! Yet I do return most missed calls in the same calendar year.

  22. Jessica October 6, 2011 at 23:50 #

    Twitter: Mytimeasmom
    I can’t stand voicemails unless it’s from a blocked number because I don’t answer blocked numbers. I generally delete voicemails without listening to them and just call the person back to see what they want. Also, I rarely leave voicemails. If I leave one for my husband he gets freaked out that something bad happened.
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    • Stasha October 7, 2011 at 10:35 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      If I call my husband he would think zombies are attacking. i just don’t talk unless there is eye contact involved. You are my kinda girl.

  23. jacqui October 7, 2011 at 05:45 #

    Twitter: chicktuition
    Usually, I end up listening to someone’s voice mail…then calling them back…then having to listen to the exact same thing they said on the voice mail. But I do like talking to some people on the phone sometimes. It’s nice to actually hear a voice and hear laughter, instead of just imagining what it sounds like.
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    • Stasha October 7, 2011 at 10:37 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      So voice mails are basically spoilers of future phone conversations? Yes, you are right, smiley faces don’t quite make up for a laugh from the heart.

  24. Cookie's Mom October 7, 2011 at 06:13 #

    Twitter: SJM_CookiesMom
    The thing is, the phone is STILL (despite being on our nation’s do not call list) a way for telemarketers (#*%^#@&^%#%) to reach me, so I don’t like to answer the phone. PLUS, it STILL wakes my child up when people phone my house at SEVEN AM! Phew. Felt good to get that off my chest. Long story short, I totally agree with you, Stasha: land phone in general=bad, email/text=good. My friends know that I will get back to them much more quickly if they just email me.
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    • Stasha October 7, 2011 at 10:42 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      You know we had to have a landline in England to get internet. Nobody ever called me except telemarketers. Which called 5 minutes into me putting my then toddler for a nap. To tell me I am eligible for a grand to do roof repairs. And my grandma, so I could not switch the ringer off, it was unethical or something. No more landline for me!

  25. Arnebya October 7, 2011 at 10:48 #

    Twitter: whatnowandwhy
    I will listen to voice mail, but I won’t leave one (unless I’m being silly; it won’t be about WHY I called). I figure if you call and don’t leave a message, it wasn’t important. I also refuse to play phone tag. You call me, me no answer. Me call you, you no answer. Back on you. Oh, and please don’t SAY “I guess we’re playing phone tag.” Um, no you’re playing alone and you’re about to get left out in the woods by your lonesome running around trying to tag someone who isn’t the best hider ever; she isn’t playing!

  26. Just Jennifer October 7, 2011 at 15:54 #

    Twitter: JenAnnHall
    Honestly, voicemail does really kinda bother me these days and I’m not very good at listening to it. But if someone wants to leave me a message, they totally can!

    I will probably be posting on this disagreement prompt too.

  27. jackie October 8, 2011 at 07:46 #

    I don’t mind voicemail. I always listen to them when I get them. As for leaving messages, I do that as well. This might be because I know a lot of people who don’t text or email as much as I do. It’s mostly my family too so I really don’t have a choice.