I believe in ZERO

I have been thinking a lot about charity lately. USA is a nation of helpers. Everyone is in some way or another involved in the community.

I was raised in a society where helping others is not a social event. We never had fund raisers, our parents never got involved volunteering to a certain cause. We all worked hard and paid half of our wages towards taxes. In return we were always given the best possible care and education. If anyone fell on hard times family and friends helped.

But every Christmas we bought cards printed by Unicef. Every single family back home,to this day will send a Unicef greeting. Guaranteed.

I live a very happy, healthy and comfortable life. If I was given a million dollars today I would not change a thing. Except donate it to a worthy cause. Realistically though, my life will remain the same. There will always be bills to pay, things to buy, education to provide. I doubt there will ever be an excess of money in my family. And that is OK.

I am also spending my sons first few years with him, all day every day. Out of choice and because my Husband works hard to let me have that choice. I enjoy my life and at the risk of sounding selfish, I am not willing to spend time elsewhere. You will not see me volunteering at events or training to run for a worthy cause. And that is OK.

To me right now the most important cause in life is my child. For him to grow up happy and healthy, a productive member of society who will one day make his own mark on Earth. And I dare say every mother in this world feels the same way.

I know there are so many causes worth supporting. I have been fortunate never in my life to be affected by a tragedy and to have to advocate and educate on any particular cause. As a person I am fearless, as a mother my only fear is my child dying. I am not asking you to donate. I know how hard it is to commit to this or that. All I ask is to please watch this video. To be thankful for the fact that we are bringing up our children in an environment where most basic reasons for survival are a given. And give yourselves a pat on the back. Because you care and you love. That matters. To your children and to the future of us all.

But if you happen to be in the market for greeting cards, please buy Unicef. Believe in Zero.

This post is not sponsored or endorsed by anyone. I do truly hope one day all children will be born with equal chances of survival.

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  1. Posted July 22, 2011 at 00:59 by Janice | Permalink

    I love the way you explain your feelings about being a SAHM. I couldn’t have said it better myself. Wish that I could explain it so easily that way – every single time. Maybe I should memorize this post verbatim…

    It is a sad reality that so many children die everyday. Our kids are still so young to realize that – and we do what we can to keep that reality far from them for yet a while. But recently I’ve been looking into a charity that I can sign up my 6 y.o. daughter. I think it’s time for her to start seeing a little of the real world and begin being grateful for what she has.

    Thank you for this post. It is close to my heart.

    • Posted July 22, 2011 at 09:31 by Stasha | Permalink

      What you and Mon2kiddos said is what made me think of writing this in the first place. My son is lovely, butlikemost kids of this generation he feels entitled to so much. Although I never knew anyone poor growing up, my parents made sure I understood our fortune and be grateful. It will make our kids better people to know that to.
      Instead of sending money to charity I hope my son says when offered another toy by a relative “thant’s OK, I already have enough. Don’t spend on it, but here is someone I think really could do with this money. Then I believe I can say my child has compassion and is charitable. You know?

  2. Posted July 22, 2011 at 01:50 by mom2kiddos | Permalink

    What a shocking statistic. My biggest fear is also that of my children dying. And it’s sad that so many children out there are not as fortunate as our kids to get even the basic necessities of life. My son has been really ungrateful lately – always wanting more, complaining about his food etc and I always tell him how fortunate he is to have what he has compared to so many poor children out there. Of course, at 4.5 he’s still trying to comprehend it but I think it’s so important for the kids to know how lucky they are. Love your post here.

    • Posted July 22, 2011 at 09:35 by Stasha | Permalink

      Agreed. It is shocking and knowing this and remembering is half the battle. Thank you my friend, here is to hope our kids one day need not talk about this. But always remember those who struggled.

  3. Posted July 22, 2011 at 07:00 by [email protected] Wants This | Permalink

    What you said about staying home with Little J? Exactly how I feel about staying home with Monkey.

    We are so privileged – in that we have a roof over our heads, food on our tables, love around us, healthcare and the ability to spread the word.

    This is a good thing you’re doing my friend.

    • Posted July 22, 2011 at 09:40 by Stasha | Permalink

      Thank you Alison. We are privileged but we work for it and i don’t think we should be ashamed of it.You know I grew up listening to my Grandpa’s 2nd WW struggles and it made me a better person. It’s seems ages ago but our kids should remember that too. Same with Unicef. Children are born innocent, they should not suffer. And I think just knowing 22000 a day still do is enough for our kids to grow up wanting to change that!

  4. Posted July 22, 2011 at 08:01 by jacqui | Permalink

    You are as amazing as I already knew you were. Beautiful post, Stasha. We should all try to get the number to zero!

    • Posted July 22, 2011 at 09:44 by Stasha | Permalink

      Thank you Jacqui, for caring and for sharing. Zero is a nice round number. In cases like this it is the only one we can hope for.

  5. Posted July 22, 2011 at 08:55 by Jessica | Permalink

    I believe that number should be zero too. Excellent post to raise awareness to UNICEF.

  6. Posted July 22, 2011 at 09:04 by Just Jennifer | Permalink

    Cool post. We all have our own perspective. Yours is definitely a valid one.

    • Posted July 22, 2011 at 09:41 by Stasha | Permalink

      Thank you Jen. There is so much wrong out there, and we all have something we wan to make right. This is my hope. What is yours?

  7. Posted July 22, 2011 at 09:47 by Runnermom-jen | Permalink

    Powerful post, Stasha…both the video and your words. I love that your “most important cause is your child”. You are awesome.

    • Posted July 22, 2011 at 10:42 by Stasha | Permalink

      Thank you Jen, I am humbled. This really matters, all children do. Yours, mine and a strangers.

  8. Posted July 22, 2011 at 16:06 by An Authentic Life | Permalink

    Very beautifully stated.
    We all do our part in whatever works for our life and family. I have a dear friend who volunteers with Hospice (which I hope to do) but her children are grown. It’s all about where you are in life, and what works.
    Thanks for sharing.

    • Posted July 22, 2011 at 19:50 by Stasha | Permalink

      Thank you Katie. I do hope to do my bit too. I think when the time comes, you know…

  9. Posted July 22, 2011 at 19:56 by Tonya | Permalink

    Beautiful and I especially LOVE that this post was NOT endorsed. It came right from your heart.


    I always try to buy UNICEF holiday cards too.

    • Posted July 22, 2011 at 20:43 by Stasha | Permalink

      Thank you Tonya. Aside from the cards raising money for a good cause, they are incredibly cute, aren’t they?

  10. Posted July 22, 2011 at 20:22 by Sherri | Permalink

    Wow, what a powerful post. And I totally agree that spending as much time with your child as you possibly can? Is the best thing ever.

    And I’ve passed on a lot of expensive stuff and vacations to make that happen.

    • Posted July 22, 2011 at 20:45 by Stasha | Permalink

      Yes, I agree. Kids always remember the little things anyway. My favourite childhood memory is fishing with grandpa at the lake on the edge of our town.

  11. Posted July 23, 2011 at 01:02 by Kimberly | Permalink

    The way you described staying home is exactly how I feel. THIS is where I want to be, nowhere else.

  12. Posted July 30, 2011 at 05:58 by Urška Španja via Facebook | Permalink

    2 thumbs up! Be a hero, believe in zero :)