A run for my money

I started paying my son to eat.

My childhood friend is a mother of two, raising her boys alone and doing an amazing job. So when she told me last year she gives each of her boys a coin at the end of the day to reward their good behavior, I marked it for future reference. Teaches kids to save, then invest wisely and prepares them for a dog eat dog world. Also, more importantly, a good incentive for being more tolerable to us who are filling up the piggy bank.

You all know what a show dinner time is in our house. That is why the other day, when we stumbled upon a blue clay pig, I thought the time has come. We brought the piggy home, placed it by the bed and set the ground rules. I for one like value for money, so I expect perfection throughout the day. But the deal breaker for earning a shiny coin is eating dinner with no shananighans.

Day one Little J was a proud owner of a quarter. Clearly my friend, in her infinite wisdom, was right. Next day, by noon, it was obvious Little J will get no wedges. Yesterday wasn’t much better. What changed thought was an arrival of a catalogue for innovative toys.

No idea why, but I get the best catalogues for children. Not that I ever order from any of these companies. Usually I toss them without even flipping, but this time Little J was faster. He has been reading it religiously for second day running and picked out a few construction toys he claims he must have immediately. Off course I seized the opportunity and told him once piggy is full, he can buy them.

Must be why this morning Little J used initiative and did everything on his own to get ready. Then asked for his coin. I told him he will get one after dinner. When asked what he would like to eat for breakfast, he said “Dinner”. Got to love my son for trying.

That’s why before he went to bed, with a perfect score for effort at the dinner table and huge minus for the tantrum earlier in the afternoon, I caved and gave him a dime. He looked at me and said:

“Mama now I have one big coin and one small coin. Big one I will use for the digger and small one for the trowel. Now can we read my magazine for bedtime story, so I can choose something else for tomorrow.”





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  1. Jenni Jaggs via Facebook April 23, 2011 at 02:45 #

    smells somewhat like bribery. my favorite scent 😉 x

    • Stasha April 23, 2011 at 08:33 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Bribery-Channel No.5 of parenthood. I LIKE IT. Wish we could bottle it up.

  2. Anastasia April 23, 2011 at 04:30 #

    Twitter: sweetbutterblis
    Oh cute! He is working so hard. I think I might try this method to get my kid to eat.
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    • Stasha April 23, 2011 at 08:37 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      The key is to set your bar low and manage expectations. But as Mom you knew that already 😉

  3. Andrea April 23, 2011 at 16:43 #

    Twitter: goodgirlgonered
    SO sweet. We’ve been trying to figure out how to get our daughter to bed and money is not yet on the table, but it soon will be!!

    He sounds adorable. And truly trying.
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    • Stasha April 24, 2011 at 00:08 #

      Twitter: NorthWestMommy
      Thank you Andrea. You could not find two better words to describe my son. Hope your daughter only shares the first one.

  4. Jessica April 24, 2011 at 00:09 #

    Twitter: Mytimeasmom
    This is so sweet. I love the idea of bribing your child to behave at dinner. Totally sounds like something I would do. So precious that he already has toys picked out, too bad those toys are way more money than he has.
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